Inner Child Wound Healing®

Inner Child Wound Healing® is to help you to recover from your childhood wounds.

Even we became adult, but we can still carry the wounds when we were small children. Wounds can be: Abandonment, Betrayal, Humiliation, Injustice, Rejection, Neglect, Abuse. These can often come with guilt, shame, blame, or anger for self and towards others. When you feel those, then mostly your wound is talking who got hurt and had pain. Wounds can be there and unhealed for weeks, months, and years. Regularly protector parts there to protect those wounds and can show up in your life in different ways. It is important to welcome them and allow them to speak up.

Inner Child Wound Healing® is mainly focusing on the parts (self), symptoms, body sensations and connecting to the inner child to heal the core wound and help to restore the balance between the 2 part child and adult self. Practising having compassion and love for the little you. Making sure that from that point you are going to nurture and look after that part of you who is your inner child (little self) by creating the features of secure environment. It is a powerful imaginary process which allow you to be with yourself, form a bond and strengthen your relationship with yourself and others. The main importance of the process is to meet the needs of your Inner Child and create a better future for yourself without living in the past every day. 

It is a deep inner work, but simultaneously it is focusing on that child who was abandon, neglected, abused, rejected so as working together we bring that smaller younger Inner Child from the past to heal/recover in the present. Right Now! At that moment!

Protective Parts

The wounded part is in primary influence on the behaviour of other parts, and it has two categories: Proactive protector and Reactive protector in response to emotional pain.

There are two categories of Protective Parts:

Proactive:

Any behaviour that is trying to prevent negative feelings and any beliefs or the wounded part, so the aim is to ward off any more harm and keep you safe. It has the rule to maintain the person’s functioning despite what the wounded part feels. Proactive protectors are vigilant and their main purpose is to prohibit the wounded part to be triggered or flooded the internal system with emotions. This protector is trying to help you manage your life in a way, so it keeps emotional pain out of consciousness. The behaviour can be such as pleasing others, avoiding conflict, perfectionism, one-sided care taking.

Reactive:

Any behaviour that tries to distract, suppress or stop the emotional pain ASAP without considering any consequences (self-medication or life-saving medication). This protector is like an emergency worker, so they are activated or at work when the memories and emotions of the wounded part, breaks through despite the great effort of the repressiveness of the proactive protector. The behaviour can be binge-eating, addictive behaviour, excessive shopping, cutting, thoughts and behaviour relating to suicide, numbing and dissociating.

Example:

It can also be used to inhibit you from having feelings at all. This refers to an example when the person is going from binge-drinking to daily drinking, so this proactive protector is preventing the feeling that drinking is suppressing. This goes from reactive behaviour to proactive role.

Wounded Part:

The Feelings, beliefs, sensations, actions. So, these parts often experienced shame, abuse, intimidation, invalidation, being diminished and neglected (childhood). So, the protectors have banished them for their safety and keeping away from overwhelming the internal world with emotional pain.