Mind, Body, Spirit

For those of us who have experienced weight struggles or even eating disorders and have come from abusive backgrounds there is a connection and if we can learn how to deal with those things and we literally can fix the problem. The weight issue is an issue that can be connected directly back to the abuse leaves you with a lot more than bad memories in fact emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, psychological abuse, and even sexual abuse can result in obesity in adults this is a proven fact a scientific fact this researchers say is a common issue in fact in some studies researchers have actually said that. If you ever want to get the weight off and keep it off you must heal yourself emotionally first when we are talking about sexual abuse the obesity factor can be more frequent and the reasons for that might be obvious if they feel like they are unattractive to people around them they are less likely to be attacked. That being said there are a lot of different reasons that your childhood abuse or any abuse in your life might have led you to gain weight and become the one during abuse you have no sense of control and so you must find something to control in your life. Sometimes that something becomes what you eat now this can also lead to anorexia or other types of eating disorders being in control of what you are eating is a big reason that a lot of survivors find themselves struggling with their weight. One way or the other an interesting thing is that people who have been in relationships with abusers and then come out of those relationships very often you will see someone end of regular non abusive relationship and get a revenge body but you don't always see that with a toxic relationship because what you end up with then is a fear. If you are too attractive you might end up in another relationship and you are not ready for that so subconsciously you don't allow yourself to lose away to lot of people when they find themselves in a romantic relationship they feel triggered and this becomes an ongoing issues. So, it's easier for some people to just not do that and they feel like if they don't look attractive then people won't want them and they won't be tempted to fall into one of those relationships. Another reason is that childhood abuse and long term relationship abuse can lead you to depression which of course is linked to our obesity problem and of course when you're going through a relationship like this you might find yourself with kind of disordered eating habits whether it is to not eat or to overeat to binge eat this is an ongoing issue for many survivors. It is important to note that not everyone who is a survivor of abuse is also obese because again there can be eating disorders and then there are some people who are not affected physically in the same way. Who aren't affected through their food intake then it is other issues for some people but there is a marked connection. That is the most important thing to know if you are struggling with your weight start healing your narcissistic abuse, healing your toxic trauma, the past the abuse they have experienced all of that can lead you to a healthier body and mind. Other signs that the abuse might still be affecting you later are sleeping problems interrupted sleep patterns things like that troubled relationships excessive stress triggers many things could be related to the other things. We have to be aware of as survivors is that he or she abused the child the things that we experienced as children and or abused adults kind of stick around the trauma itself doesn't really leave us when it is over. That is why we deal with things like CPTSD so what is interesting is that studies show that people who struggle the most with weight reduction tend to be surrounded by people who are not supportive of their efforts. Of course that could clearly relate to a toxic family or a toxic partner so how do you kind of undo that connection so that you can get healthy again well heal the broken parts on the inside first so you might need therapy if you want to start to slowly build healthier lifestyle choices into your day but also to take care of yourself from the inside out to work on those things that are holding you back. The best ways to improve your mood increase your endorphins and just feel better in general so when it comes to raising your endorphins so take a nice long hot bath it will not hurt you.